Finding Love: ‘Love is Blind’ Reflections from a Biblical Viewpoint

I don’t know if you’re like me and have been watching the Netflix series “Love is Blind.” But, it has had me hooked. I enjoy seeing dating in a different light. Also, it’s a learning experience for me since I’m able to see both perspectives in the relationships that they are building. But, is love truly blind?

I have noticed a few things watching the show that I know I have done in previous relationships, that made my partner feel a way. I feel like a lot of women can relate to some of the women on the show, and it’s okay we’re here to learn and grow. But let’s break down some of these things and see what God says about it.

The Reveal

So, after the couples propose to their mates, they move in together as engaged couples and then they meet the other couples face to face. These other couples are not just random people, these are people they dated and said no to. So during this moment and time, they are seeing the people they rejected and this brings in comparison. This is where their loyalty is tested because now they are comparing the girl or guy they turned down to the one they chose and for some this was not a good experience. I believe that looks play a factor in the person we choose to live life with, but looks should never be the focus.

In The Bible, when Samuel was sent to anoint one of Jesse’s sons as the next king, Samuel thought Eliab was the one because of how he looked. God told Samuel not to judge him by his looks because God doesn’t look at the face like we do, He looks at the heart. So, I believe once you’ve seen a person’s heart and fell in love with that, I don’t think you should allow a pretty face to cause you to lose your person.

Living Situation

When the couples move in together, they start to face different challenges than the ones in the pods. When they were living separately, it was easy for them to bond. When they moved in together that’s when I feel the love initially became lust, and quickly after the butterflies, problems arrived.

I don’t believe in living with someone before marriage. I believe some things should be saved. But, in there case, this was part of the experience. I’ve noticed that once they moved in together, a lot of the guys were complaining that they were experiencing a different woman. I just think they were now seeing the real person and little things were causing issues. For example one couple argued about a towel on the floor and the trash building up. It may seem like a small issue but this small issue can become a problem. I understand both sides though, now that I can see them. The guy was upset because the way she presented problems. It seemed like she was belittling him and nagging instead of encouraging him to do better. I understand her side as well because he is a grown man and should know how to clean up after himself.

This is were communication comes into play because these are two different people with different backgrounds now in one household. They have to find a way to meet in the middle. She has to learn how to communicate without tearing him apart and he has to understand her expectations and honor them. The Bible says, husbands should honor their wives. This means what she says matters to her husband. The Bible also says that wives should respect their husbands. This means if she has an issue, it is okay to address it, but it should always be respectful and addressed out of love.

The Family

As they go through figuring out how to live together, they now have to meet each other’s families and hear opinions from people who love them. Family is important to some people and a lot of these people have different cultures and religions. They now have different challenges and issues to face like are we going to have a Nigerian wedding or an American wedding, or will our kids be Jewish or Christian. All of these things are important. The Bible says a lot about love and it also speaks about being equally yoked. So even though this has not always been the case for me, I believe that this is important when choosing the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. Another thing the Bible says is that love is patient, kind, and love never fails. So, if it is love, you will care for the things your partner cares for.

Bachelor/Bachelorette Parties

I won’t speak a lot on this topic because I honestly hate the idea of these parties. In my mind, I just can’t understand why people go to strip clubs before the wedding. I guess it’s their last night single because you are single until you are married, but once you become serious in a relationship, you should honor them period.

The Wedding

The wedding is the most exciting day of them all. The couples are getting dressed up and pretty. However, the nerves are high in this moment because the other person can say no. Since it’s not a traditional wedding, this is all happening within a couple months, the other person can get cold feet and want out. This is where people are very vulnerable they are getting in front of the people they love, potentially getting embarrassed.

For the ones that said no, I commend them for not allowing this experience to rush them into something they were not ready for and risking a divorce that should have never happened. For the ones that found love, I also commend because despite of the challenges and differences, they were able to overcome them all and become one under God.

Is Love Blind?

To be honest, I don’t believe love is blind, I believe love is work. Love is not something you can just fall in and remain in for the rest of your life without doing anything to maintain it. Love is a garden. We have to tend to it in order to keep it healthy. God shows us all throughout the Bible how to love. Love will always be difficult without God, because it wasn’t meant to be without Him. With God in the center, love will never fail.