Navigating Singleness: Embracing Purpose and Healing

This post is for all the single ladies. As women in Christ, finding love can sometimes be hard. Before I decided to surrender my life to Christ, I was broken. I had stopped loving myself and so I settled for anything. The crazy part is I cared even less about the people I was with. I didn’t see them as men, I saw them as tools. Something that I can use when I need, and put them back on the shelf once I was done. I wasn’t a good person.

I was so broken to the point where I wasn’t really looking for a partner, I was looking for a savior. I wanted someone to fill the shoes that only God could. So, every man that came in my life at that time was never enough. It got to a point where I even did the extreme, got married and didn’t include God in it. I was just going with the flow and I lost sight of God. I thought I could do it without Him, but nothing can be sustained without God. But one thing about my God is that even when I didn’t choose Him, He chose me. He never gave up on me. I thought marriage would make me happy, but it just invited someone else to experience my brokenness.

Forgive That Girl

To my past partners, I hope that you forgive the version of me that was not healed. The version of me that brought pain into your lives that was not yours to begin with. I pray that God heals your hearts, so that you will never attract “that girl” again.

Kingdom Men Protect Purity

I am now at a point in life where God is taking me, and stripping away every impurity in me. He is showing me how to see His sons as He sees them. I once ran from the idea of purity because I’ve never seen it done in my life. I was afraid that if I chose purity, I would run the person that God has for me away. However, I understand now that thinking like that is a spirit that is not of God. That is the spirit of fear which God did not give me.

I am learning that the man that God has for me will not run from my purity, but he will protect it. God is revealing to me that kingdom men exist.

A New Perspective

I realized that God wants me to sit out for a season and heal. There are things deep down inside of me that needs to heal. Every man should not be seen as a prospect, that is how you either get hurt or cause hurt. When Ruth went back to Naomi’s hometown, she didn’t look for Boaz. When Ruth first spoke to Boaz, she also did not pursue him until she was told.

To my single ladies, be obedient and intentional about where God has you right now. Don’t focus on finding a husband because it is not our job to find a husband. This season of singleness is important. This is where you can focus and actively walk in the purpose that God has given you.

Along your walk, you might just bump into your purpose partner. This is the last thing I will leave you with. The Bible says to love others as you love yourself. If you don’t first heal and forgive yourself, you will never be able to do either for anyone else.